let it flow..

"Things you force break"

My husband is working towards a goal at his work that will require our family to make some big changes. It is a big deal and in an attempt to control the situation I was just thinking that he should email his boss right this minute and get answers.. give me a time line so I can obsess and plan it all out and make it all happen NOW!!! Right as I was thinking about that the thought came to me that, "things you force, break" I was also trying to pull the lid off a pencil and as I pulled and forced it off.. it broke

How often do you receive a lesson as clear as that?!

This is not a new idea for me either, rather a repeating theme that I am deciding to honor and practice.

I wanted a boston terrier but, we were not ready for it. I pushed and searched and made it happen. We got a sweet girl who was completely nuts and ultimately  a bad fit for us and we were a bad fit for her. We ended up re-homing her, and that is no fun. When we were ready, out of no where we were given the sweetest boston you will ever meet. I forced it and well, it broke.

I have many more examples but I won't bore you with the details. Think of your own moments of forcing things to happen or not happen or what have you. Then think about freeing yourself from the need to force things. If it needs to be forced there's a good chance it may break so think long and hard about allowing it to play out a natural course to the desired and natural outcome.

~M